Respite Care

We have some good friends names Susie and Ron. They have a 11 year old boy that they were needing sometime away from (like all parents need at times) so we said we could help them out. Plus we are the only people who will take him. He is a very demanding child. He has been here about 3 days and so far has...
1. Put a hole in my wall
2. Put a hole in the inside of my car
3. Put bruises on me
4. Has had several tantrums (one that James has been dealing with has been going on for 3.5 hrs now)
5. Hit and kicked Miranda ( Don't worry Miranda can hold her own, she hit him back)
6. Tried to break a window and jump out (3rd floor)
7. While driving unbuckled and opened car door saying he was going to jump
8. Has tried to hit James with objects

So we have called the casework and said he must go. They are now calling a kids hospital to take him. The reason I tell you all this is because he needs prayer and so does the family taking care of him. They have had him for 4 years now (plus his sister, which we have also watched and is just like him) and love him but don't know if they can continue. The two of them together is a LOT to deal with. They also have other kids in the home to think about. I know to some of you the decision seems easy but when you have cared for and loved a child like they were your own it is harder than you think. You feel as you have failed them some how and wonder is this the right decision?

I know all children can be annoying at times... yes I said it and yes you have thought it too! But to see this child hurting this way is heart breaking. I feel at times that the system has failed these children. I look at my kids and I can't imagine putting that much pain on them.
In working with children from DFS, I know with some they will never change. It makes me very sad to think a parent has done this to their own child. The children deserve better!! Again please pray for this family. Thank you!